Discussion:
Time to accept the fact that swingers are part of the lifestyle?
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Dario Western
2010-01-30 20:21:57 UTC
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Hey Anna and JonZeee,

<posts snipped for brevity>

"Anna....i for the first time am impressed by an older gentleman who tells
it like he has seen it over the years...although he and his wife
were more or less conservative he does tell it like it is......if nudist
could admit that nudism is about exhibitionism and exhibitionism is sexual
if done while naked.....and stop ever referring to textiles as being
anything other than the customer base of which all places of businesses draw
from..whether it be the gas station or the nudist camps....if a nudist is
going to write a book for textiles to respect and find interesting to
read...it will have to be from an actual nudist with not one hint of
contempt for the laws or the textiles that wrote the laws..."

There is a difference between nudism and exhibitionism. Nudism is about
being nude in mutually agreed company without any other intent (note the big
keyword: *INTENT*). Exhibitionism does not have to be about sexuality or
nudity, although of course it can incorporate either of these two, it is
about being noticed whilst other people are not. It can take the part of
performing on stage, preaching on a soapbox, flash-mobbing - just anything
where you are or where you are part of the main focus. Exhibitionism with
nudity can apply to the likes of a Spencer Tunick photo-shoot, or the
displays of civil disobedience by the likes of the Doukhabours, Vincent
Bethell, Terri Sue Webb, Daniel Johnson, Andrew Martinez, Richard Collins
and of course Steven Gough.
Nudism in the modern world was founded on civil disobedience and contempt
for the evils of modern living - pollution, over-crowded living - virtually
everything that the Industrial Revolution brought about. My take on the
laws is simple: if it does not kill, maim or injure any being, then make it
legal (although of course stealing, cheating and lying must not be exempt
from that!)

"it will have to include all thethings that nudist try to suppress....the
sexual part of course and
the fact that some children are like adults they are turned on by
nakedness and there is where that nudist continue to deny deny and
deny....even if they admit it nothing will ever be done about it from
the textiles position other than it would spark more traffic coming to
the camps of which would be more sex seekers....but nudist have a bad
habit of saying bad things and creating animosity between them and the
swingers by stating they cause the nudist to have a bad name.....well
let the nudist without sin and guilt of knowing that the nudist are
sexual too speak these words....otherwise nudist should keep their
mouth shut...."

I was having a talk about this last night with my ex-housemate Mark who is
25 years old and he said that this is exactly what is wrong with nudism in
Australia and why it is starting to peter out as a lifestyle and lose its
appeal with younger people. He says that nudists need to embrace more
diversity if they want to win textiles over to their lifestyle and to have
to be what it's not - and that means to accept swingers and GBLT people as
well (Mark is bisexual btw). I have forwarded your commentary to him and
asked for his opinion on it, especially because he and I have done many
organised nudist activities together for almost 5 years now, and he is also
a fan of TGB and how Peter runs the place after seeing the webpage for it.

"see it represents the disrepect i have for nudist and therefore i have no
contempt for swingers although i might not
participate with either group nowadays other than an occassional drop
in to see how things are going.....Anna as much as you have read here
even you would not really learn anything by going to a camp.....you
should have an excellent picture of family nudist reality by
now.....family nudism will never be a real money making business
because like the ol man Benny says in his post here....it does not
attract the young other than dyfunctional misfits families included...."

Perhaps this might be the case in our countries, but not in Europe and the
UK. I'd wager that the younger aged nudists on the IYN and YNAI forum would
disagree with you that all families in nudism are dysfunctional. Even I
have come across a few nudist families in Brisbane who were quite happy and
well-balanced, although I did not get to know them well enough. I'd say the
reason why many family nudists around our way are dysfunctional is because
the parents have a contempt for conventional societal wisdom in the first
place. The nudity has nothing to do with it. It boils down to our basic
selfish human nature which I pointed out before.

Benny W drives home one very important truth that the young don't want to
hear: "When you are young you are told to avoid temptation, but when you
grow older temptation goes out of its way to avoid YOU." What he's said
about the nudist clubs in America is true, but it has not been the
experience with the clubs I've been to. There are little to no organised
activities - least of all beauty contests, although some of them have
organised races to raise money for charities.

The RAW music festival that I've often talked about here was a nudist event
geared to young adults, but it only attracted about 10 punters of its
desired audience base because the organiser held it at a time when there was
another rock concert nearby with more well-known acts that could always
attract a younger audience base and he refused entry to swingers, single men
(the latter until the last minute), and anybody under the age of 18 except
for his own kids. Result: he lost tons of money on the event which he
eventually recouped from the sale of the DVD documentary which was more to
do with the body painting contest rather than the bands that were on there.

There is also a young nudists rock festival called BareFest being organised
in the UK in June this year which is being promoted on Facebook and getting
a healthy amount of people interested (Peter is also a member of its support
group if you care to look).

"even in the seventies heyday of nudist child porn the large camps then
struggled to raise enough money for new facilities ..ie new swimming pool
hot tub or whatever....olive dell still hauls water and has never had enough
money to dig a well......but not so with the swingers...they can attract the
young and the old too...and the sky is their limit.....jz"

You are correct with your last comment. The other day I was leafing through
some swingers groups on Yahoo! groups which were nude friendly and they got
10 times more member interest than the traditional nudist only groups.

See these two for contrast:

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Brisbane-Naturists (my group)
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Brisbane-Swingers (owned by a swing club
called Mike's Place)

Enjoy the rest of your w/e! :)


Dario
Zee
2010-01-30 23:01:36 UTC
Permalink
Post by Dario Western
Hey Anna and JonZeee,
<posts snipped for brevity>
"Anna....i for the first time am impressed by an older gentleman who tells
it like he has seen it over the years...although he and his wife
were more or less conservative he does tell it like it is......if nudist
could admit that nudism is about exhibitionism and exhibitionism is sexual
if done while naked.....and stop ever referring to textiles as being
anything other than the customer base of which all places of businesses draw
from..whether it be the gas station or the nudist camps....if a nudist is
going to write a  book for textiles to respect and find interesting to
read...it will have to be from an actual nudist with not one hint of
contempt for the laws or the textiles that wrote the laws..."
There is a difference between nudism and exhibitionism.  Nudism is about
being nude in mutually agreed company without any other intent (note the big
keyword: *INTENT*).  Exhibitionism does not have to be about sexuality or
nudity, although of course it can incorporate either of these two, it is
about being noticed whilst other people are not.  It can take the part of
performing on stage, preaching on a soapbox, flash-mobbing - just anything
where you are or where you are part of the main focus.  Exhibitionism with
nudity can apply to the likes of a Spencer Tunick photo-shoot, or the
displays of civil disobedience by the likes of the Doukhabours, Vincent
Bethell, Terri Sue Webb, Daniel Johnson, Andrew Martinez, Richard Collins
and of course Steven Gough.
Nudism in the modern world was founded on civil disobedience and contempt
for the evils of modern living - pollution, over-crowded living - virtually
everything that the Industrial Revolution brought about.  My take on the
laws is simple: if it does not kill, maim or injure any being, then make it
legal (although of course stealing, cheating and lying must not be exempt
from that!)
"it will have to include all thethings that nudist try to suppress....the
sexual part of course and
the fact that some children are like adults they are turned on by
nakedness and there is where that nudist continue to deny deny and
deny....even if they admit it nothing will ever be done about it from
the textiles position other than it would spark more traffic coming to
the camps of which would be more sex seekers....but nudist have a bad
habit of saying bad things and creating animosity between them and the
swingers by stating they cause the nudist to have a bad name.....well
let the nudist without sin and guilt of knowing that the nudist are
sexual too speak these words....otherwise nudist should keep their
mouth shut...."
I was having a talk about this last night with my ex-housemate Mark who is
25 years old and he said that this is exactly what is wrong with nudism in
Australia and why it is starting to peter out as a lifestyle and lose its
appeal with younger people.  He says that nudists need to embrace more
diversity if they want to win textiles over to their lifestyle and to have
to be what it's not - and that means to accept swingers and GBLT people as
well (Mark is bisexual btw).  I have forwarded your commentary to him and
asked for his opinion on it, especially because he and I have done many
organised nudist activities together for almost 5 years now, and he is also
a fan of TGB and how Peter runs the place after seeing the webpage for it.
"see it represents the disrepect i have for nudist and therefore i have no
contempt for swingers although i might not
participate with either group nowadays other than an occassional drop
in to see how things are going.....Anna as much as you have read here
even you would not really learn anything by going to a camp.....you
should have an excellent picture of family nudist reality by
now.....family nudism will never be a real money making business
because like the ol man Benny says in his post here....it does not
attract the young other than dyfunctional misfits families included...."
Perhaps this might be the case in our countries, but not in Europe and the
UK.  I'd wager that the younger aged nudists on the IYN and YNAI forum would
disagree with you that all families in nudism are dysfunctional.  Even I
have come across a few nudist families in Brisbane who were quite happy and
well-balanced, although I did not get to know them well enough.  I'd say the
reason why many family nudists around our way are dysfunctional is because
the parents have a contempt for conventional societal wisdom in the first
place.  The nudity has nothing to do with it.  It boils down to our basic
selfish human nature which I pointed out before.
Benny W drives home one very important truth that the young don't want to
hear: "When you are young you are told to avoid temptation, but when you
grow older temptation goes out of its way to avoid YOU."  What he's said
about the nudist clubs in America is true, but it has not been the
experience with the clubs I've been to.  There are little to no organised
activities - least of all beauty contests, although some of them have
organised races to raise money for charities.
The RAW music festival that I've often talked about here was a nudist event
geared to young adults, but it only attracted about 10 punters of its
desired audience base because the organiser held it at a time when there was
another rock concert nearby with more well-known acts that could always
attract a younger audience base and he refused entry to swingers, single men
(the latter until the last minute), and anybody under the age of 18 except
for his own kids.  Result: he lost tons of money on the event which he
eventually recouped from the sale of the DVD documentary which was more to
do with the body painting contest rather than the bands that were on there.
There is also a young nudists rock festival called BareFest being organised
in the UK in June this year which is being promoted on Facebook and getting
a healthy amount of people interested (Peter is also a member of its support
group if you care to look).
"even in the seventies heyday of nudist child porn the large camps then
struggled to raise enough money for new facilities ..ie new swimming pool
hot tub or whatever....olive dell still hauls water and has never had enough
money to dig a well......but not so with the swingers...they can attract the
young and the old too...and the sky is their limit.....jz"
You are correct with your last comment.  The other day I was leafing through
some swingers groups on Yahoo! groups which were nude friendly and they got
10 times more member interest than the traditional nudist only groups.
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Brisbane-Naturists(my group)http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Brisbane-Swingers(owned by a swing club
called Mike's Place)
Enjoy the rest of your w/e!  :)
Dario
Good on you Dario.....it looks as though you are prepped and ready to
talk your message in a book...but do acknowledge our difference here
about exhibitionism.....the college kids and professors will allow
your book to be on the library shelves if you really are honest and
meet them with their ideas about the subject.....but harken....if you
begin your talk about exhibitionism and then you try to obama and
smooth mouth and twist and turn....hey Dario...these kids are smarter
then obama.....they know that everybody is some kind of
exhibitionist....that is a given....but hey we are talkin bout naked
exhibitionism and you want to sweep that part under the rug......so
here we go...once more with even more feeling......lets take three 10
year old girls and they are brought to a nudist camp by their parents
and this is like their first or second visit and they have now had
time to get a lay of the land....and so a half dozen pedos are in the
midst....and they notice the pedos are interested in them by smiles
but no verbal....and so right before everyones eyes and God at least
one and probably all three will ....like a butterfly coming out of its
cocoon ....MORPH into the most exciting and OBVIOUS sexual
exhibitionist tha the world has ever seen....they will go all the way
to masturbation at least one of them and probably two or three of
them......now Dario this is a fact ....proving that nakedness is
sexual and that nakedness provokes children that are the best proof
that one can come up with....the boy at your camp was sick according
to you when he jacked off.....soooooooooooooo he was sick but healthy
kids and sick kids behave the same way when it comes to sex.....so get
this straight and you are ready for the college library with your
book......jz
TheWhiteCockatoo
2010-02-03 06:08:35 UTC
Permalink
The following is something we deal with on a regular basis. Our
profile down-under sees us get truck loads of silly emails and
enquiries, but just today I received one from someone seeking to start
a Nudist Enterprise.

This seems an appropriate thread to place this discourse....

Her, heavily edited for obvious reasons, email enquiry is shown
immediately below followed by what is an almost template reply from me
I send to all looking at reality through rose colored glasses ;)

Hi Tony and Lenore,

My name is xxxxxx xxxxxxx and I live in Byron Bay, NSW.

I am writing this email in the hope of asking for the opportunity to
speak with you, either over the phone or through email , so that I may
ask you some questions pertaining to a new business that I am
operating. From what I can gather you are long standing veterans in
the provision of nudist/naturalist holidays and I would really love
the opportunity to learn from your experiences in operating such a
unique business.

I can only imagine that you are extremely busy people, and I am not
sure if you recieve solicitions like this often or not, so let me
provide you with some background information about me so that I can
hopefully ease your mind about this request.

I am 31 years old. I have two beautiful daughters aged x and x. I live
with my life partner xxxxx xxxx and our kids in the Byron Bay
hinterland overlooking majestic mountains and the beautiful pacific
ocean. Both my children were born naturally, water births and lotus
births, no drugs or intervention. My partner is a Naturopath and
legendary massage therapist.

Although neither of us would call oursleves nudists, we love and
respect the opportunity such a lifestyle offers. Our whole family
spend much of our time naked on our private property. And there are
many artistic nude photos of me while I was pregnant still in
advertsing print today circulating around our area.There is only love
and respect here.

I just love our lifestyle and where we live. It could be easy to take
our Byron lifestyle for granted, but since I am originally from Sydney
I know that we are onto a good thing. I am a natural born hippy and
love everything about the natural, alternative lifestyle.

I am also a natural born entrepreneur, and recently discovered a niche
in the travel market of Byron. Even though Byron embraces a naturalist
lifestyle (we have many legal nudist beaches and lakes) and Nimbin, a
short hop from Byron, was the capital for the 70's hippy revolution
and still holds that space even today, there is a gap in the provision
of quality nudist holiday escapes that really take the individual or
group into the heart of our lifestyle. Byron is still a haven for free
love for all and provides a great backdrop for a let loose party
experience.

Hence I have started a business providing private nudist Byron Bay
holiday packages that offer the opportunity for one to immerse
themselves into the naturalist lifestyle in one of the most beautiful
places on the planet (notice I said one- I have spent time up your way
in the Dainetree and was actually on my way up there to live when I
stopped off here and never left;)

Obviously I would like to operate a successful and memorable business
(memorable for all the right reasons). I also would like to aviod as
many pitfalls and roadblocks to starting this business as possible and
the best way I know how to go about this is to find a mentor.

And since I am a newbie greenstalk, my biggest challenge is knowing
upfront the challenges a business faces when operating within the
unique boundaries of a nudist experience provider.

I have several meetings booked with accomodation providers in Byron to
discuss a possible partnership, however I really would like to be
prepared for any and all objections that may surface within these
meetings.

This is why I would really love to talk with you. I am not sure how
you would feel about it. I am not sure if you would view me as
competition within this market, I hope not. Clearly I am a newby
greenstalk and I just genuinely would like to ask you some questions.
I run several businesses already, so am I definately not asking you to
help me set-up the business. I just would like some sage advice from
people who actually know and are living the experience themselves.

I realise you are in your peak season and are probably very busy. I
pray that you have even made it this far through this very long email.
So thank you for the opportunity to introduce myself. I do hope that I
get to speak with you soon. If this is not possible for any reason
just let me know, I will understand. My contact details are:

To which my stock reply was:

With all due respect xxxxx,

The correct term/definition/description is Naturist!

Should you seek to attract a bunch of David Bellamy or David
Attenborough clones then you are spot on in your use of the Naturalist
terminology throughout your email, however should you wish to attract
people who enjoy being Naked when able and appropriate then I would
respectfully suggest you understand the basics of terminology before
even considering proceeding further.

Just the reason why we use the tern Nudist, rather than Naturist, as
it saves so much confusion and pretentiousness.

Albeit we are about to discontinue our Nudist seasons in future in
favour of our Adults Only seasons. Realities of business show that is
the way the market is going, as is shown by all successful ventures
like ours worldwide.

Niche market for Nudists is now almost non-existent. The "prudie
nudie" brigade are now too old and have little disposable income to
spare to spend on any decent destination.

Give them $10 a night powered camp sites and they'll likely come,
slowly take over, and constantly tell you how you should be doing it,
but no matter they will always whinge and want more.

The $100 plus a night Nudist (read "prudie nudie") market can
sometimes not be much better...

Adults Only market with a Naked twist.... Now that works!

Just my initial thoughts....

Regards

Tony Fox

@ The White Cockatoo
Web : http://www.thewhitecockatoo.com
Email : ***@thewhitecockatoo.com
Ph. +61 7 40982222
Fax. +61 7 40982221
9 Alchera Drive,
Mossman, Qld 4873,
Australia
Zee
2010-02-03 11:52:29 UTC
Permalink
Post by TheWhiteCockatoo
The following is something we deal with on a regular basis. Our
profile down-under sees us get truck loads of silly emails and
enquiries, but just today I received one from someone seeking to start
a Nudist Enterprise.
This seems an appropriate thread to place this discourse....
Her, heavily edited for obvious reasons, email enquiry is shown
immediately below followed by what is an almost template reply from me
I send to all looking at reality through rose colored glasses ;)
Hi Tony and Lenore,
My name is xxxxxx xxxxxxx and I live in Byron Bay, NSW.
I am writing this email in the hope of asking for the opportunity to
speak with you, either over the phone or through email , so that I may
ask you some questions pertaining to a new business that I am
operating. From what I can gather you are long standing veterans in
the provision of nudist/naturalist holidays and I would really love
the opportunity to learn from your experiences in operating such a
unique business.
I can only imagine that you are extremely busy people, and I am not
sure if you recieve solicitions like this often or not, so let me
provide you with some background information about me so that I can
hopefully ease your mind about this request.
I am 31 years old. I have two beautiful daughters aged x and x. I live
with my life partner xxxxx xxxx and our kids in the Byron Bay
hinterland overlooking majestic mountains and the beautiful pacific
ocean. Both my children were born naturally, water births and lotus
births, no drugs or intervention. My partner is a Naturopath and
legendary massage therapist.
Although neither of us would call oursleves nudists, we love and
respect the opportunity such a lifestyle offers. Our whole family
spend much of our time naked on our private property. And there are
many artistic nude photos of me while I was pregnant still in
advertsing print today circulating around our area.There is only love
and respect here.
I just love our lifestyle and where we live. It could be easy to take
our Byron lifestyle for granted, but since I am originally from Sydney
I know that we are onto a good thing. I am a natural born hippy and
love everything about the natural, alternative lifestyle.
I am also a natural born entrepreneur, and recently discovered a niche
in the travel market of Byron. Even though Byron embraces a naturalist
lifestyle (we have many legal nudist beaches and lakes) and Nimbin, a
short hop from Byron, was the capital for the 70's hippy revolution
and still holds that space even today, there is a gap in the provision
of quality nudist holiday escapes that really take the individual or
group into the heart of our lifestyle. Byron is still a haven for free
love for all and provides a great backdrop for a let loose party
experience.
Hence I have started a business providing private nudist Byron Bay
holiday packages that offer the opportunity for one to immerse
themselves into the naturalist lifestyle in one of the most beautiful
places on the planet (notice I said one- I have spent time up your way
in the Dainetree and was actually on my way up there to live when I
stopped off here and never left;)
Obviously I would like to operate a successful and memorable business
(memorable for all the right reasons). I also would like to aviod as
many pitfalls and roadblocks to starting this business as possible and
the best way I know how to go about this is to find a mentor.
And since I am a newbie greenstalk, my biggest challenge is knowing
upfront the challenges a business faces when operating within the
unique boundaries of a nudist experience provider.
I have several meetings booked with accomodation providers in Byron to
discuss a possible partnership, however I really would like to be
prepared for any and all objections that may surface within these
meetings.
This is why I would really love to talk with you. I am not sure how
you would feel about it. I am not sure if you would view me as
competition within this market, I hope not. Clearly I am a newby
greenstalk and I just genuinely would like to ask you some questions.
I run several businesses already, so am I definately not asking you to
help me set-up the business. I just would like some sage advice from
people who actually know and are living the experience themselves.
I realise you are in your peak season and are probably very busy. I
pray that you have even made it this far through this very long email.
So thank you for the opportunity to introduce myself. I do hope that I
get to speak with you soon. If this is not possible for any reason
With all due respect xxxxx,
The correct term/definition/description is Naturist!
Should you seek to attract a bunch of David Bellamy or David
Attenborough clones then you are spot on in your use of the Naturalist
terminology throughout your email, however should you wish to attract
people who enjoy being Naked when able and appropriate then I would
respectfully suggest you understand the basics of terminology before
even considering proceeding further.
Just the reason why we use the tern Nudist, rather than Naturist, as
it saves so much confusion and pretentiousness.
Albeit we are about to discontinue our Nudist seasons in future in
favour of our Adults Only seasons. Realities of business show that is
the way the market is going, as is shown by all successful ventures
like ours worldwide.
Niche market for Nudists is now almost non-existent. The "prudie
nudie" brigade are now too old and have little disposable income to
spare to spend on any decent destination.
Give them $10 a night powered camp sites and they'll likely come,
slowly take over, and constantly tell you how you should be doing it,
but no matter they will always whinge and want more.
The $100 plus a night Nudist (read "prudie nudie") market can
sometimes not be much better...
Adults Only market with a Naked twist.... Now that works!
Just my initial thoughts....
Regards
Tony Fox
@ The White Cockatoo
Web :http://www.thewhitecockatoo.com
Ph. +61 7 40982222
Fax. +61 7 40982221
9 Alchera Drive,
Mossman, Qld 4873,
Australia
sounds like a frustrated housewife...jz
Anna
2010-02-03 17:49:22 UTC
Permalink
Post by TheWhiteCockatoo
The correct term/definition/description is Naturist!
I know sometimes there can be much discussion on the distinction
between the words "Naturist" and "Nudism". Some don't really care and
just consider the two terms synonyms.

Others, and I kind of fall in this category believe that the
distinction is this. While Nudists like to be naked in resorts, and
like clubs that sponsor swim nights and such, for naturists there
needs to be some element of nature so you would see them more focused
on nude beaches, hot springs, nude hiking, etc. But of course being a
nudist who enjoys clubs doesn't mean the person might not enjoy nude
hiking or going to the nude beach so one can at the same time be a
nudist and a naturist and that's where the confusion when one makes
such a distinction.

Now I also think it's more of a regional thing as well. In the UK and
Australia the term Naturist is used most often while here in America
we tend to use the word Nudist,

But both things have one thing in common besides the fact that its
about nude recreation. And that is it's about nude nonsexualized
recreation.
Anna
2010-02-03 17:58:31 UTC
Permalink
Although neither of us would call ourselves nudists, we love and
respect the opportunity such a lifestyle offers. Our whole family
spend much of our time naked on our private property.
I am curious why, if they spend much of their time naked on their
private property they still would not consider themselves nudists.

I mean it is okay for them not to but I just wonder why.

Now they sound much like my husband and I. We spend much of our time
naked on our private property (when weather permits).

But we don't among non family and that is why I don't believe I can
claim to be a nudist.

Is that the reason they don't feel they are nudists? While they spend
much of their time nude within their family on their private property
they would be hesitant to be nude in front of people outside that
circle like at a nude beach or a nudist venue?

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